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Helping baby sleep through the night

I knew when I signed up for motherhood that there would be sleep loss. I tried to mentally prepare myself for this by sleeping more through pregnancy.

I figured that I could store up more sleep hours on the front end right? Surprise surprise, the last trimester you will wake up many many times a night to “tinkle,” a term I am using because yes I woke up to pee, but nothing substantial came of it! 

So since this strategy didn’t work out as well as I thought it would I decided to share a different strategy to get back to sleeping that has been working great for our family! Here is our process of going from third trimester wake up calls, to night feeds, to ahhh yesss, sleeping through the night!

For the first 6 weeks, go with the flow!

No schedule is the best schedule

From birth to 6 weeks, please do not worry about the schedule of your life, your sleep, or your baby! This is what I call survival mode. You need to attend to the needs of your baby no matter what, when, or why. Yes, you will need SOME sleep. But it will be the out of the ordinary sleep that you will shoot for during this time. You can achieve this by tapping into your support network (and honestly I am writing from the experience of having one). Take naps and let your baby’s father, your mom, or best friend attend to the baby as needed so you can get an hour or two of needed sleep!

Phone a friend

Some people don’t want anyone in their home right after the baby is born. In some cases this is extremely understandable. You are used to your space and way of doing things. However, I personally found my mom to be a complete God-send. She cooked nutritious foods, kept up with the laundry, and cleaned up around the house. I was able to surivive off of 4 hours of interupted sleep through at 24 hour period because I had some responsibilities off my plate.

Eat, eat, and oh.....EAT!

For your health, nutrition is key. You need to eat CALORIES to fuel your body with the energy to commit to the task at hand. Which is of course to help your precious new human baby get accustomed to the outside world. You see at this stage of human development, we are not capable of cardiac rhythms or having an understanding of day verses night. It is unreasonable to expect this of your baby. There is not a reason to try and implement some sort of intervention to assist in “normal” times of sleep. That is why they call this time the “fourth trimester.” Humans are not fully developed yet and our large heads could not exit the small hole required to survive birth if we were born “fully developed” (I wonder sometimes if I am fully developed). 

6 weeks, Game on!

This time comes with a really interesting change in persepective. You have been doing the damn thing for a while now, and are about ready for a change. And by change I mean you just want to SLEEP! So what can you do to get this train moving towards the promise land….. It is time for that golden egg…..Establishing bedtime routine! What does this look like? Well I can tell you there are many varieties but for us it was simple:

Bedtime routine example

  1. Bath time around 6:30 pm
  2. Brush teeth (when age appropriate)
  3. Lotion and essential oils
  4. Dress in PJs
  5. Read a book (or 2 depending on mood)
  6. Nurse or bottle if dad was doing bedtime
  7. Sing a song while placing our baby in the DockATot

We repeated these steps every single night from the time our son was 6 weeks old until this current day. We do not use soap for every bath, but the warm water is soothing to him and the steps seem to prep him for bed. By the time we are reading the book, he is already yawning and half asleep.

So what happens next...

This is the individualized part. There are proponents of cry it out for as long as it takes. There is the method of gradual extinction, letting baby cry for intervals that get longer and longer. Others cosleep. None of these are right or wrong.

You can read a dozen books and they will all suggest one of these 3 methods. This is my advice. You have to do what works for your personality and your baby’s personality, which you will learn through trial and error.

When our son was 6 weeks old I started the bedtime routine, and then laid him down in his Dock by 7 pm.

I looked at my watch and waited 2 minutes after he started to cry before I went back in to sooth him. At this stage that was as long as I could bear to let him cry.

I did not pick him up. I just went back in, placed my hand on his chest and said, time to go night night little love. Then promptly walked back out.

 

Nanit - The Baby Monitor That Thinks

It didn’t exactly work, so I waited 5 minutes and repeated the same method, prolonging the wait times every time.

Finally, after an hour of not getting anywhere, I couldn’t take the crying so I picked him up and rocked him until he calmed down. They say the trick with this type of sleep training is to let baby know you are there, but not pick him up, but I was not able to abide by this rule.

Once he was calm I laid him down and strarted over again. This process went on until 10 pm when I nursed him and he fell asleep while nursing. Epic fail!

The next night I was really dreading experiencing listening to him cry so I still did the bedtime routine and he just stayed up with us until he fell asleep naturally. Which was late! He still woke up around every 3 hours to eat that night. 

I knew I needed to figure out something so I could have at least one long stretch of sleep.

The following night I put my mental armor on and prepared for the task ahead.

This time after bedtime routine and laying him down, I called my mom. I needed to see if there was anything she could suggest to help.

While we were on the phone he was crying and it was very distressing. I kept trying to get off with my mom so I could soothe him. She continued to ask more questions in which I didn’t know the answer.

Maybe she was doing this on purpose but somewhere in the midst of me trying to get off the phone and get to my baby, he fell asleep! All on his own WITHOUT ME!

It took 35 minutes of crying but that night he slept for 8 hours straight and I woke up in a puddle on milk.

establishing bedtime routine
Nanit - The Baby Monitor That Thinks

When do babies start sleeping through the night?

My son started consistently sleeping for longer stretches (approx. 8 hours) after I figured out that he needs to be left to fall asleep on his own. This happened around 2 months of age. It got to the point where he would not cry when I laid him down. There are a few things that helped make his experience with falling asleep much better.

1. Swaddle

One of these was his swaddle. We wrapped that sucker around him tight and it soothed him as he would push against it. Swaddles are a safe way to keep your baby warm at night as they will not come unwound and cover their little heads.

2. DockATot

The next wonderful item we used was the DockATot. This little bed provided breathable borders for him and prevented him from rolling all over the place. Once we started putting him in this to sleep he started sleeping for longer and longer stretches! I still had to wake up usually once a night to feed him from 2-4 months

Check out my honest review of the DockATot here.

Sleeping at last!

Around 5 months of age Connor was generally sleeping from 7 pm to 7 am, with only occasional nights of wakefulness and night feeds.

There is a sleep regression around 4-5 months of age due to a big leap in development, however this does not last long and sticking to the bedtime routine helps immensely to get past this stage. 

I want to breifly address cosleeping. There are many moms that find this is the golden egg for getting more sleep at an earlier age.

I highly recommend using a cosleeping bed like the DockATot for this. Cosleeping is great for breastfeeding and building a close bond with your child.

I was not able to cosleep because I am such a light sleeper. I ended up losing more sleep when we tried this method because I would wake to every little squeak. However if you have tried everything else and nothing is working, it may be a great option for your family!

I know this post was a bit long-winded and for that I apologize! Lack of sleep is a very real problem for many mothers and I would love to hear your methods of what worked for your family. Please feel free to leave me a comment below!

Cheers,

The Cheeky Mommy

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